Thursday, February 14, 2013

A Lesson Learned

My new writing desk, what do you think?
Hopefully you love it because that will probably be my desk until May or June!
I am so embarrassed at myself right now.
I have read hundreds of books, listen to probably a hundred author interviews and podcasts, which all say you must write for yourself. I know that. I nod my head in agreement every time.
And yet I find myself casting my eyes downward every time someone asks me what I’m working on, when my next book is coming out.
I don’t know.

I enjoyed writing The End. It was fun for me. I loved the characters, I loved the subject matter, I loved delving into an unrealistic topic and creating a world out of it. I loved writing The End, and then I loved ending The End.
A lot of people asked about a sequel. My friends asked, my family asked, people I didn’t even know asked! I felt a bit of (friendly) pressure to start a sequel I'd never really intended to write.
I have never really been a fan of series or sequels until recently. I pretty much wanted to know what happened next after the first Pretty Little Liars book and opened myself back up to series again… but even still, there have been a lot of books read recently whose sequels just didn’t interest me. I have to really love a book to want to dig back into it once I’ve put the subject to rest.
I spent almost a year working on a sequel to The End, y’all. Just because people asked about it. I dreaded writing some days. I started to completely hate the characters I’d loved creating the first time around. I finished the book and felt nothing but disappointment. I felt the writing could have been better, the plot better, the new characters stronger… and in general, I hated it.
So this is for all of my writer-readers, all of my readers who have a cousin or a sibling or a neighbor who wants to write. This is for fellow bloggers, for novelists, for poets. This is the best and most common advice you’re going to receive. Ready?
Write for yourself.
Sigh.

In other news, Happy Valentine's Day! Ryan and I will be seeing the new Die Hard movie today (!!) and making googly eyes over popcorn and helicopter explosions. Do you have anything fun planned with your sweetie today?
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14 comments:

  1. oooooh, a nice romantic movie :) have fun!

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  2. Have you looked on Craigslist for a desk? You'd be surprised at what you can score in the free section sometimes. Before we moved from IL I listed and gave away several nice pieces of furniture we couldn't take and I needed to get rid of ASAP. We have also scored a couple of things down here people put by the road. I am redoing my own desk now that we picked up. Recycling at its best :). ~ Naples Sara

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    1. Everyone here uses a different site similar to Craigslist but so far we haven't found anything/have only found stuff too far away to go pick up! We need a kitchen table too so I check it every time I get online! =]

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  3. I love this. I NEEDED to hear this. Obviously I'm not a writer by any stretch of the word but I do definitely receive the same kind of pressure with my sewing, in the form of sewing for others/sewing for income/sewing things I'm not personally in love with. It's hard because on one hand you feel the need to do what people are asking for but at the same time if it's not what you want than is it really worth it? I'm probably making no sense, again I'm soo not a writer.. ha but I just wanted to let you know that I loved this and very much appreciated what you had to say.

    I hope you have fun seeing Die Hard!

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    1. Yes, that's exactly how I mean it! It doesn't just have to apply to writing! Sometimes it can be so hard to stick to your guns but I think in the end that peace of mind and joy is so much more important than any income or praise!!

      And I most definitely will, THANK YOU! =]

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  4. What a great lesson, and how awesome that you learned it relatively early into your career! I imagine there are writers who have been doing it for a lot longer and still haven't figured it out.

    Hope you're doing well, my friend.

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  5. Love the desk!! (We call that Kiwi Ingenuity!lol) It's hard not to feel pressure to please others! At the end of the day it's a wee bit about realizing that you can't please everyone,without misplacing your own happiness!! Stick with what you believe and feel and you'll be right! I'm going to look for Hubby now to show me how to work the whole e-book/kindle thing so i can read your book!! I love end time type books!!

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  6. this is just what i needed to hear, so thanks for that. i am always making excuses for myself to procrastinate something (anything.) i need to just do it for ME.

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  7. That sucks that it took so long for you to realize it, but at least you've realized it now!

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